amcgltd: 28 Weeks

April 06, 2003

28 Weeks

28 weeks, wow. It's not happening fast enough. No really, it's not. I'm done being pregnant.

I'm having difficulties with my back now. To the point that sitting down is uncomfortable. If I have my feet up, I'm doing well, but if they are on the floor, I start to ache. The same goes for standing. I can't stand for long periods of time either.

Scott made fun of me the other day, and was promptly beaten with a television remote when I attempted to get off the couch and turn to hear: BEEP, BEEP, BEEP!!! Though, I must admit I couldn't help myself but laugh at it. It did take quite the effort to get my ass off the couch without risking an abdominal hernia.

The scary thing is that I have 12 more weeks to go.

I was lying on the floor the other night, because my back hurt so bad, (YES! I was a horrible pregnant girl! I was laying on my BACK! *GASP!!!!!* Apparently a big NO NO in pregnancy) and Scott manages to say to me that I look big, but the odd thing is that I am going to get bigger.

Dear god! For ONCE he is right! I could not help but look down and my belly and think how could it possibly GET bigger? I mean, it's hard as a rock and you can totally thump it like a ripe melon. *THOOOMP!* Scott also scolds me that I stare at my stomach every time it moves. How can you not? It's totally fascinating!

I'm supposed to gain 11 pounds in the next 12 weeks. 11 pounds?!? That's a lot. I don't feel like I could possibly get bigger!!!!! I mean, this baby is already 14 inches long and almost 3 pounds. I'm going to have to go into hiding soon.

Pretty soon I will have to venture out to my dr's office twice per month to say hello and that I'm still alive. Scott and I have yet to take the hospital tour. (I did look at it on the net? Does that count? A virtual tour?)

I did manage to finally get my glucose tolerance test done this past week. After being sent to 2 different labs and one chick telling me the week before she simply did not have time to do my test cause she had to leave early.

With the glucose test you essesntially waste 2 hours of your time, and get stuck with a 20 gague needle twice. It's alot of blood they take too. 3cc at a time, 3 tubes total. It may not seem like alot of blood, but for a glucose? Couldn't I just drink 2 sodas and use a glucometer?

Hopefully I'm done with tests. I do know that I have to get my RH injection next dr's vist on the 16th.

An aside: Some of the comments I'm getting, just by feel, are along the lines of "oh. my. god. Could you whine any more? Don't you know this is magic?!?"

I would submit that any woman out there who feels this way needs to lift up her rose colored glasses a little and remember. Scott says one of the things he is struck by most is how women in the late stages of their second or third pregnancy always say "oh my god, why did I do this again?!?" Yes, it's magic when you get her to giggle for you the first time, or know you're supporting another life, or watch them transform from a wobbly lump into an entire person.

But I think most of you have forgotten just how much goddamned work this home stretch is. They don't giggle right now, they thump. They stomp on your bladder, and they kick vertebra out of your spine like nickles in a stack.

What I'm saying is you should be taking this not as whining, but as a cautionary tale. The vast, and I mean vast, majority of you felt like this at this stage, but have forgotten. The next time you feel all squiffy about how little Jane or John isn't so little anymore and wouldn't it be grand to have another baby because it wasn't really that bad should read this and remember. I'm sure it's all worth it in the end (it better be), but right now it sucks.

12 weeks to go, and this roller coaster ride just keeps getting longer.

Posted by Ellen at April 06, 2003 04:21 PM

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Any woman who tells you she didn't feel this way during her last trimester is in denial. lol You just get through it and a few times during the first year, if you are lucky, you look at that little critter and go "Oh my"! Women have very short memories when it comes to pregnancy or the human race would not have survived. Hang on E. You are not a bad girl, at this stage of the game it is a matter of survival, if you are comfortable lying on you back on the floor then so be it.

Posted by: Pat on April 6, 2003 06:36 PM

I don't think you're whining too much!!! Believe me, after seeing what you're going thru, I'd most likely be 10 times worse. I find it amazing that you're still wanting to hang out and go out places... right up till the end of the pregnancy. :) If I EVER get pregnant, I have a little bit of an inkling of what it'll be like after talking with you and seeing how you're changing thru the days. I of course have NO clue what it feels like, but I am learning a thing or two.

I've never had a friend who's pregnant that I hang out with on a regular basis. So until now, I've never touched a pregger tummy, haha. Also, i've NEVER held a baby in my life (a 2-yr old, yes, when babysitting as a child)... but I'm sure Olivia will be my first. Don't worry, Auntie Battie promises not to drop her!! :)

No whining is gonna scare us away, either will you getting bigger, hehehehe.

Posted by: Battie on April 6, 2003 07:51 PM

*G* Sweetie, You are NOT whining! :D If you don't let out the frustration and pain and DIScomfort that you're going through, your blood pressure will go up for sure.

Good LUCK to you, you can do it (*G* I'm talking about getting through these last weeks, you may be hanging on by your fingernails, but you'll get through it :)

Posted by: witchy on April 7, 2003 10:02 AM

I don't think you are whining at all! I agree with you totally. It really irritates me when people tell me (especially those that have never had a child) that I am being ungrateful because I can't wait for this baby to be born. I with you. I'm over being pregnant! Is it June yet??

Posted by: Dianne on April 7, 2003 10:11 AM

Erin was whiny at the end, too.... I reminded her of that after reading this last night.... I asked her what she thought now.

"All I have to do is look at our angel and I KNOW that it was all worth it, even if it had been 10 times worse"

for the record, yes, she does want another one... not YET, but she does.

You're doing fine, dear. You'll be alright. I've told you before and I'll tell you again, I'm sure.... It all becomes a distant memory as soon as you hold that precious little life.

I've read that the female psychosis is designed so it promptly forgets the hardships endured during pregnancy as part of the maternal instinct. This is for a few different reasons. Primarily so that it won't hinder the desire to do it again and more importantly in order to accelerate the nurturing instinct.

Well, that's what I read anyways.... I'm quite certain I don't understand, but I read A LOT of things I don't necessarily understand and/or agree with :-)

Posted by: Jim S on April 7, 2003 12:08 PM

I am at exactly the same gestational week and have been on bedrest since 2/25. So I, for one, am going to whine--and I deserve to do every damn bit of it--and so do you!!!

Posted by: Carol on April 11, 2003 06:37 PM

My twin sister is 28 weeks pregnant! I called her and read this site to her. She laughed so hard!!
It's been awhile since I have heard my sister laugh. Maybe you should write a book!! I would by it for All of my expecting friends!!

Posted by: Amanda on March 8, 2004 07:38 PM

Excuse me, I meant "buy" lol!!

Posted by: Amanda on March 8, 2004 07:40 PM

Enjoy your pregancy I complained like that the first time I was Pregnant. The baby died 13 days later now with this pregnancy I am greatful for every second I get with this baby.

Posted by: Karla on December 7, 2004 10:20 AM

Thank you for putting into words exactly how I feel! I had a breakdown tonight and told my mom and husband that I can't do this anymore...like I have a choice. And the whole gaining weight thing is so horrible. I am 28 weeks and can not imagine getting any bigger. I am hoping that it is all true about forgetting all of this once the baby is here. Thanks for sharing and reminding me that I am not alone!

Posted by: Janine on April 20, 2005 01:08 AM

Hello I am 28 weeks pregnant and due on aug.7th,so I know the agony that you are facing!My two boys are 12 and 14, the dr told me that I my chances of getting pregnant again were slim to none because of my tilted cervix and irregular cycles,so I kept doing it like an idiot!!I had a very unexpectant xmas present to learn that I was a month pregnant!I almost forgot how the excitement felt, another life inside me after twelve years is like starting all over again! I am ready to see my beautiful little boy! The waiting is like nothing you can ever describe,after we hold our little ones in our arms ,the wait seems like just yesterday and the pain never existed...We keep doing it because the moment we give birth is a precious and memorable gift from god that we remember;but soon forget, the journey we had to face! Soon life begans again....It's all worth it!!!God bless you all!!1

Posted by: poochie on May 10, 2005 05:47 AM

SORRY GUYS FOR ALL THE REPEATS LOL...I MADE A MISTAKE MY COMPUTER WAS TAKING TOO LONG!

Posted by: poochie on May 10, 2005 05:53 AM

Hey ladies I can understand everyone. I am 28 weeks and it has been 8 years since I have been pregnant! But it seemed alot easier when I was younger I am 27 now I am not old but I can sure tell im getting older.
I was reading in a book I got for my husband the other day and it was talking about when a pregnant women complains about complaining I thought that was kind of humorous then I thought about it I do complain about complaining! LOL
But it will be so worth it when I get to hold little Noah Skler! Good luck to all of you !

Posted by: Amy on May 16, 2005 09:49 AM

I'm 28 weeks and bigger than I ever was with my first two kids! Not to mention my oldest is 12, which means that my husband and I will attend a senoir graduation and a kindergarten orientation the same week, basically!! How freaky is that?? I believe that the backaches, heartburn, inability to attain comfort of any kind, and all the other symptoms are worse this time around because I'm older than I was with the other pregnancies, (which my doctor LOVES to tell me, damn him)- good luck to all of you, bless your babies:)

Posted by: Dianna on September 1, 2005 01:57 PM

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and my pelvis is so achy at night I have trouble sleeping. If I don't stick two pillows in between my knees every time I lay down I'm wincing in agony. I do prenatal yoga four or five days a week and it's a struggle to hold the poses as long as I did in the first trimester. I feel like a walrus. I can't believe I've got 12 weeks to go. I get out of breath and my ankles look like somebody took a baton and beat them with it. I know the baby is only two or three pounds but she feels like seven pounds already. To top it off, I have two toddlers to waddle after. As soon as I get comfy, one of them is scribbling on the wall, spilling juice on the carpet or asking to go potty. I know I'm blessed, but us last trimester lassies have a right to complain. I'm getting my tubes tied.

Posted by: Rania on January 18, 2006 09:09 PM

I am so glad that I am not the only one who is this misarable. When did you ladies quit work? I am 28 weeks, and I can barley do my job, I am in constant pain, and alway sleepy.

Posted by: Vic on July 31, 2006 01:08 PM

I am now 28 weeks, and I am done as well. I can't sleep, and the baby moves all the time. Not to mention I have a 3, 4, and a 10 year old going on 20 that might not live to see her first and only brother. I am so tired of hearing my dame husband lie about I wish I could carry the baby, or I wish I could have him for you. Thats BS. I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me just understand that I hate the world right now. By the way to everyone out there that don't have kids, stop asking if you can rub our bellys it creepy.

Posted by: Cherry on November 29, 2006 07:25 PM